Don’t mess with Mr. In-between

In the past few weeks, I noticed I have been receiving an abundant amount of junk emails. Not only spam emails, but businesses sending advertisements and offering their services without my choosing to receive information from said service.

Twelve years ago, when I started as an entrepreneur and went through the etiquette of running a business, I remember being taught that under no circumstances we were to email people who did not sign up and gave their permission to receive emails from us.

I found myself a bit more frustrated today looking at my inbox and when I read this particular one “I hate to be a pest” sewer service, I felt like writing him back; if you hate to be a pest, please do not be one. I did not opt into receiving marketing or promotional emails. And please add an option to unsubscribe.  He very nicely emailed me back wishing me a great day.  I graciously received and wished him the same.

Later on that day I felt uneasy about the situation. I am sure he is a nice guy trying to make ends meet and making his clients happy with safe and clean sewers for their homes or businesses.  He may even be in a networking group I belong.  I felt my energy going down and I felt contracted.

Going to my Intuition I heard these words: “Don’t mess with Mr in between”.  I remembered I heard these words before, so I looked it up. To my delight it was the lyrics of a song by Bing Crosby & The Andrews Sisters.

“You got to ac-cent-tchu-ate the positive
E-lim-i-nate the negative
And latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mr. In-between
You got to spread joy up to the maximum
Bring gloom down to the minimum
And have faith, or pandemonium
Liable to walk upon the scene”

I realized I was second guessing myself in the decision I made to stand up for what I believe was the right thing.  My doubts showed up and were going to drag me down. I decided to feed my faith and starve my fear and this song was a great reminder to make a decision and go with it. No Mr In-Between belongs in my mind.

Where in your life could you eliminate a Mr. In-Between?

 

Healing through Somato-Emotional Release (SER)

A client mentioned an unwanted happening in her marriage to which she kept having the same reaction. She cringed. Like most people, she wanted this unwanted happening to end by stopping her husband’s action from happening.

Recognizing a Pattern

As we tapped into what actually was happening through her, she realized and heard a physical experience of a static noise in her head. To the question whether she remembers this noise happening before in her life, she noted a particular event with her mother in which she found herself thinking “I did not want this, I don’t know what to do”. She felt so stressed at that time that she needed to leave her mother’s house. She went to the beach and shared her thoughts with a friend.

Connection and Growth

At the time she did not know, but in our SER session she understood, that as she was talking to her friend, she was also working her thoughts out within herself, and she recognized that what what she wanted was connection and growth in her relationship with her mother. She was able to reconcile her discontent with her mother and their relationship became stronger. She was able to face her mother’s decisions with compassion and support.

The Saving Grace in Saving a Marriage

In her mind and relationship with her husband, this same concept did not exist. She wanted her husband to stop doing what she did not want or knew how to deal with. She was contemplating a divorce. Her experience was the same – cringing, static noise and, not knowing what to do – but this time she had resentment on her mind when she talked about the situation. As she connected the dots of symptoms and thought patterns, she came to the understanding that her choice of resentment is a detour from creating a happy marriage.

Making a Decision

She made the decision to think of her husband that same loving way she thought about her mother. Not because she felt her husband deserved it, but because she remembered who SHE was. She decided to remember love within and take action from that memory. A simple change like this moved their relationship from going forward with the divorce she was contemplating to keeping the dancing in their marriage alive.