Finding Fulfillment in Stillness: Lessons from an EMT’s Slow Day

In our fast-paced world, the idea of productivity is often synonymous with constant action. However, an experience during my days as an EMT revealed a profound truth about productivity and fulfillment. One slow day, my partner and I found ourselves parked in our ambulance, waiting for a call. Hours went by, and a sense of anxiety began to creep in. I realized I was restless because I felt the need to be productive.

The Search for Productivity

To quell this restlessness, I began organizing equipment in the back of the ambulance. When that didn’t help, I took a walk and struck up conversations with people nearby. Despite these efforts, the anxious feeling persisted. It was then that I decided to sit quietly and meditate, seeking clarity on what productivity truly meant.

The Epiphany

During my meditation, I asked, “What does productive mean? What can I do to be productive?” The answer that came to me was simple yet profound: “Productive is feeling fulfilled without having to do.” This revelation felt liberating. It suggested that true productivity is not always about tangible actions or accomplishments, but can also be about a state of being.

Understanding Fulfillment Without Action

The idea of feeling fulfilled without having to do challenges our conventional understanding of productivity. It invites us to explore a deeper sense of fulfillment that comes from within. But what does this really mean, and how can we experience it?

  1. Presence in the Moment: Often, our sense of fulfillment is tied to future achievements or past successes. Being present in the moment, fully aware and accepting of our current state, allows us to find peace and contentment without external validation.
  2. Self-Acceptance: Embracing who we are, with all our strengths and flaws, helps us feel whole. This self-acceptance reduces the need to constantly prove ourselves through actions and accomplishments.
  3. Inner Peace: Cultivating inner peace through practices like meditation, mindfulness, or simply sitting quietly can lead to a profound sense of fulfillment. This peace is not dependent on external circumstances but comes from a calm and centered mind.
  4. Gratitude: Recognizing and appreciating the simple joys in life, such as a quiet moment, the beauty of nature, or a heartfelt conversation, can provide a sense of fulfillment. Gratitude shifts our focus from what we lack to what we have.

Moving From Idea to Experience

Awareness of this concept is just the beginning. To truly embody this wisdom, we need to practice it. Here are some steps to integrate this understanding into our daily lives:

  • Daily Reflection: Set aside time each day for reflection or meditation if you can. Ask yourself what truly makes you feel fulfilled and pay attention to moments when you feel content without external achievements. If setting aside time each day is not an option, use a minute or two while you are showering, using your bathroom break, washing dishes, or even when you are watching your child’s games or practices. Being aware and directing ones thoughts can even be done during conversations we are having.
  • Mindful Activities: Engage in activities that promote mindfulness, such as walking in nature, journaling, or simply sitting quietly. These activities help anchor us in the present moment.
  • Self-Compassion: Practice self-compassion by being kind to yourself, especially during times of inactivity. Remind yourself that your worth is not tied to constant doing. Turn your kind, encouraging, empowering talking skills towards yourself as well, not just towards others you love.
  • Embrace Stillness: Allow yourself to experience stillness in the presence of quilt or fear. Choose stillness to be the focus of your attention as quilt may remain in the background.  Understand that being still and present can be as productive as any action, as it nurtures your inner well-being.

Conclusion

The lesson I learned on that slow day as an EMT remains a powerful reminder that productivity is not merely about doing, but also about being. Feeling fulfilled without constant action is a profound form of productivity that brings inner peace and contentment. By embracing this wisdom, we can lead richer, more balanced lives, finding joy and fulfillment in the stillness as much as in the action.

Lao Tzu wisely said, “By doing nothing, everything is done.”

If you are struggling to find your fulfilled experience, let us explore stillness together. Contact me for a session for any of my services.

Exploring Craniosacral Therapy as a Complementary Approach to Migraine Management

Migraines are debilitating headaches characterized by intense pulsating or throbbing pain, often accompanied by symptoms such as nausea, vomiting, and sensitivity to light and sound. While the exact cause of migraines remains elusive, they are believed to involve a combination of genetic, environmental, and neurological factors.

I first began experiencing migraines during my teenage years. They would typically start with the unsettling sensation of a dark spot in my vision, resembling an eclipse, followed by the emergence of bright spots similar to stars. Soon after, the pain would set in, accompanied by nausea and other unpleasant symptoms mentioned above.

Fortunately, my active lifestyle as a competitive swimmer meant there was little time to dwell on these debilitating episodes. Remarkably, the migraines ceased during this period, only to resurface later in adulthood as I juggled the responsibilities of raising three children.

Upon consulting medical professionals, I was informed that migraines would likely be a lifelong companion, however, manageable with medication and stress reduction. As a busy parent, the notion of waiting out symptoms or relying solely on medication didn’t align with my lifestyle.

Driven by a desire for better management or, ideally, complete healing, I began exploring alternative therapies. Initially, I turned to massage therapy that I was in school for and which provided some relief. It was during this time that I stumbled upon Craniosacral Therapy (CST) —a modality I had never encountered before.

Despite my initial unfamiliarity, I felt an intuitive pull towards CST. It proved to be a revelation—a profound shift in my well-being that I hadn’t experienced with any other bodywork techniques. This realization prompted me to delve deeper into CST, and pursued formal education in this body and mind work modality which I have been practicing for over 13 years.

Over six years now, I am celebrating a life free from migraines and medication. The journey wasn’t without its challenges; it required a shift in mindset and dedicated effort to release old patterns developed since childhood. Yet, the transformative impact on my health and quality of life has made every step of the journey worthwhile.

Craniosacral Therapy is a gentle, hands-on approach that aims to release tension and restrictions in the craniosacral system, which includes the membranes and cerebrospinal fluid that surround and protect the brain and spinal cord. The subtle hands-on techniques improve the flow of cerebrospinal fluid and facilitate the body’s natural healing processes.

I would like to encourage individuals to seek out Craniosacral Therapy as a complementary or alternative treatment for migraines. By addressing imbalances and restrictions in the craniosacral system, it can help alleviate the underlying causes of migraines and reduce their frequency and severity, and yes, like in my case, a complete healing from it is also possible. If you are like me, the gentle nature of CST makes it appealing to those who prefer non-invasive therapies and may be seeking alternatives to medication.

It’s important to note that the scientific evidence supporting the effectiveness of Craniosacral Therapy for migraines is limited. To me, this makes no difference! It worked for me, so it can work for others as well.

Migraines are complex neurological conditions, and their management often requires a multidisciplinary approach that may include medication for the time being, lifestyle modifications for sure, and other therapies. In my case, SomatoEmotional Release (SER) which is part of CST was enough. I did not need to turn to other modalities. However, everybody and every body is different, so following your own Intuition is always the best approach.

I recommend that individuals considering CST for migraines should consult with a qualified healthcare provider to discuss their symptoms and treatment options. A thorough evaluation can help determine whether integrating CST into a comprehensive migraine management plan is right for you.

As with any alternative therapy, it’s essential to approach CST with an open mind and to work closely with healthcare professionals to ensure safe and effective treatment.

I hope this information was helpful to you if suffering with migraines, giving you hope for relief and a healthy and happy lifestyle.

Exploring Craniosacral Therapy: A Gentle Approach to Healing

In the realm of alternative medicine and holistic healing, Craniosacral Therapy (CST) stands out as a unique and gentle approach to promoting health and well-being. Originating from osteopathy, CST is based on the idea that the craniosacral system, consisting of the cranium (skull) and the sacrum (the triangular bone at the base of the spine), plays a crucial role in maintaining overall health. In this blog, we will delve into the principles, techniques, and potential benefits of Craniosacral Therapy.

Understanding Craniosacral Therapy:

Craniosacral Therapy is founded on the principle that the body has its own rhythm and subtle movements, much like the pulse or breath, known as the craniosacral rhythm. This rhythm is believed to be driven by the flow of cerebrospinal fluid, which bathes and nourishes the brain and spinal cord. Practitioners of CST are trained to detect and use gentle influence over this rhythm, if needed, to alleviate pain, reduce tension, and enhance the body’s natural ability to heal itself.

The Key Principle: A Gentle Touch

CST is a non-invasive therapy that involves light, therapeutic touch. Practitioners use their hands to assess the craniosacral rhythm and make subtle adjustments to encourage balance and harmony in the body.

Holistic Approach:

CST views the body as a whole, interconnected system. It aims to address not only physical symptoms but also emotional and psychological well-being.

Self-Healing:

CST believes that the body has an innate ability to heal itself. By facilitating the release of restrictions and tensions, the therapy supports the body’s natural healing processes.

Techniques Used in CST:

Palpation: Practitioners use their hands to feel for restrictions or imbalances in the craniosacral system. This involves gentle palpation of the skull, spine, and sacrum.

Cranial Holds: Specific hand positions are used to encourage the release of tension in the craniosacral system. This can involve holding the head, sacrum, or other parts of the body.

Energy Work: Some CST practitioners incorporate energy work or Reiki into their sessions to enhance the therapeutic effects and promote relaxation.

Potential Benefits:

Craniosacral Therapy has gained popularity for its potential to address a wide range of physical and emotional conditions, including:

Pain Management: CST is often sought for relief from headaches, migraines, chronic pain, and musculoskeletal issues.

Stress Reduction: The gentle nature of CST promotes relaxation and can help reduce stress and anxiety.

Emotional Healing: CST may assist in processing and releasing emotional trauma and tension held in the body.

Improved Sleep: Many clients report improved sleep patterns and quality following CST sessions.

Enhanced Well-being: CST can contribute to an overall sense of well-being and vitality.

Craniosacral Therapy is a holistic and gentle approach to healing that emphasizes the body’s self-healing abilities. While it may not be a replacement for conventional medical treatment, many people find value in CST as a complementary therapy to address a variety of health concerns. As with any alternative therapy, it’s essential to consult with a qualified practitioner and discuss your specific needs and expectations.

Schedule your free consultation call or a CST session today.  I would love to hear from you.

What you like matters, because You matter

We all experience procrastination from time to time. Some of us occasionally and some of us habitually.  Did you ever ask yourself the question why? Are you curious to know the answer? Would you like to change this pattern? Read on to learn that we rarely do things for the reason we think.

A client came to see me with complaints of lower abdominal pains. She has been through the medical field and did not receive a diagnosis. Her tests were all negative, which is a really good thing, yet she felt she would feel better if something was found, so she knew what to do and “get rid of the pain”.  Guided by her desire, searching for an answer to feel better, one day she heard about craniosacral therapy and she made her first appointment with me.

During CST, it is not uncommon that emotions resurface.  Tears, laughter, anger, joy, frustration etc… are all welcome.  The memories that we may become aware of during a session are helpful in making sense of a long-held ache or pain even if there was no previous diagnosis.  There is a part of us that is connected to Infinite Intelligence. Our Inner Physician/Intuition brings the real value in Its guidance towards recognizing the relationship between the memory, the emotion and the aches and pains experienced in the body. An event, coupled with an emotion may be the cause of a bodily ache and this same can also be preventing the healing from occurring.  Our current reactions and behavior patterns can be recognized by the memory of the patient and with the help of the Inner Physician the repatterning can begin to take place.  This is where SomatoEmotional Release (SER) becomes part of the CST session. This can be prompted by the therapist or it can be prompted by the Intelligent System in way of a memory and a stop in the craniosacral rhythm, Dr. Upledger called the significant detector.  SER is different from traditional talk therapy as cells have consciousness and store memories as energy. We experience this energy stored as tight, tense, stuck, dense, hard, aches and pain. When the patient is able to repattern, change perception of the memory that popped up, the tissues release tension and become softer, lighter, freer.

In my third session with my client, she experienced waves of movement first in her lower extremities, later on along her thoracic spine and then felt it stopped happening at her cervical spine (neck) area. As she recognized that “stop”, she became aware of her attitude of “just because”.  She then had a memory of herself as a child and being told “because I said so”.  She also recognized that overtime this “just because” attitude led her to procrastination.

She was aware that she was procrastinating in most area of her life, but did not connect the dots to why or what she can do to change.  She frequently asked herself questions like; “why would I want to do this or that? It makes no difference and it does not matter when I pick up the garbage from the floor or wash the dishes etc”… as a response to being directed by adults who gave her no choice and when questioned she was told “because I said so”.

In repatterning her old habits, she realized that she actually loves it when her house is clean, her work is done on time and wakes up in the morning to a kitchen with space on the countertops.  She realized that the “why” in her doubts were pointing her towards her love of and liking things. And so were the adults in her life, who were just unskilled in their communications. All of those mattered. And with an emotional release of tears, she recognized that SHE matters too.

At the end of her session she reported “feeling lightness in my belly and there is a flow in my neck.”

What are your bodily experiences and/or procrastination pointing you towards?

 

Healing through Somato-Emotional Release (SER)

A client mentioned an unwanted happening in her marriage to which she kept having the same reaction. She cringed. Like most people, she wanted this unwanted happening to end by stopping her husband’s action from happening.

Recognizing a Pattern

As we tapped into what actually was happening through her, she realized and heard a physical experience of a static noise in her head. To the question whether she remembers this noise happening before in her life, she noted a particular event with her mother in which she found herself thinking “I did not want this, I don’t know what to do”. She felt so stressed at that time that she needed to leave her mother’s house. She went to the beach and shared her thoughts with a friend.

Connection and Growth

At the time she did not know, but in our SER session she understood, that as she was talking to her friend, she was also working her thoughts out within herself, and she recognized that what what she wanted was connection and growth in her relationship with her mother. She was able to reconcile her discontent with her mother and their relationship became stronger. She was able to face her mother’s decisions with compassion and support.

The Saving Grace in Saving a Marriage

In her mind and relationship with her husband, this same concept did not exist. She wanted her husband to stop doing what she did not want or knew how to deal with. She was contemplating a divorce. Her experience was the same – cringing, static noise and, not knowing what to do – but this time she had resentment on her mind when she talked about the situation. As she connected the dots of symptoms and thought patterns, she came to the understanding that her choice of resentment is a detour from creating a happy marriage.

Making a Decision

She made the decision to think of her husband that same loving way she thought about her mother. Not because she felt her husband deserved it, but because she remembered who SHE was. She decided to remember love within and take action from that memory. A simple change like this moved their relationship from going forward with the divorce she was contemplating to keeping the dancing in their marriage alive.